10 Questions to Build a More Authentic Life.
Many of my clients express a deep desire to live a more genuine and authentic life. After 30, 40, 50 or even 60 years living in this world, they find that they are conforming to rules, habits and cultures that don’t fit their natures or don’t have any personal meaning for them. They crave more opportunities to just be themselves without trying to fit their square peg into someone else’s round hole.
Does this sound familiar? If so, you read on – as the secret to building a more authentic life lies with having and owning a deep understanding of yourself.
Sounds easy right? But it can be very difficult to know yourself. We get distracted by the way we wish we were or the way our parents/bosses want us to be or the way we judge how we ‘should’ be. It’s easy to lose sight of what is actually true for us.
For me, it came as a shock to find out at age 45 that I was an introvert. Yet when I stepped back and looked at the facts, it was undeniable. I found I held a deep belief from childhood that I would be more successful and more loved if I were happy, outgoing and sociable. While on the surface I appeared to be a confident extrovert, I didn’t recognise how exhausted and draining that behaviour was for me. As an introvert, I get my energy from being alone and actually find being with others – enjoyable but also draining. Therefore, without enough ‘alone-time’ each week, I now see that I get run down, cranky and frankly a bit miserable.
Once this ‘ah-ha’ moment came to me, I was able to embrace my introverted self and be more genuine with people around me. Now if I turn down a social invitation from a friend, they know it’s not personal, it’s just that I need a bit more alone time. (For more information on introverts – check out Susan Cain’s amazing TED talk here.)
From Gretchen Rubin's book; Better than Before, here are 10 questions to ask yourself to check how in tune you are to your true nature:
1. Am I a lark/early bird or a night owl?
2. Do I love familiarity or novelty?
3. What time of the day do I feel energised? What time do I drag?
4. Would l like to spend more time with friends or by myself?
5. Am I drawn towards simplicity or abundance more?
6. Do I like to listen to experts or do I like to figure it out on my own?
7. Does it bother me to act differently from other people, or do I get a charge out of it?
8. Am I a marathoner (slow and steady), sprinter (quick burst of energy) or procrastinator (last minute)?
9. Am I more likely to indulge in a bad habit in a group, or when I’m alone?
10. If I could magically, effortlessly change one habit in my life, what would it be?
The more we understand ourselves, the more authentic we become. By embracing our natures, we can create new rules, new habits and new routines that suit us uniquely. We don’t need to conform to something we aren’t, we all need to confidently be ourselves and let our individuality shine through. That’s what living an authentic life is all about. #authenticlife, #embraceyourself
p.s. want to work with me on discovering your unique nature and living more authentically? Get in touch with me at email@example.com